Having Compassion
I tend to have a compassion for those who are hurting due to a relationship gone bad or things not going the way they wanted them to. It's a shame that the majority of those who inflict pain on others have no conscience or consideration for the feelings of the one they are hurting. Some would argue that one shouldn't put themselves in a position to get hurt or that if someone is not making them happy - they should remove that person from their lives.
It is much easier said than done. I have a friend who seems to keep meeting the wrong people. They will interact with her and things may go to another level physically but my guess is that the person she's with at the time has no intentions of pursuing a serious relationship with her. If the physical aspect of a relationship is all they want - why not say this upfront? I know, if they did, they probably wouldn't get what they're really after. It hurts me to see her get hurt time after time. I am quick to lend an ear or to give her advice when asked. My latest advice to her is to take things slow the next time around. If a serious relationship is what you want, take the time to really get to know the person and see if what you want is consistent with what they want.
If it's just sex they want, more than likely they won't stick around long. When she does get around to asking what it is they want from her, they shouldn't have a problem responding. If they do - take it as a RED FLAG. From that point on, keep the interaction strictly on a friendship level. That will be one less heartache that she'll have to endure.
posted by tan247 @ 9:54 AM
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Buy her that book "He's Just Not That Into You", by the Sex and the City writers. Best thing you can do for her.
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